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Oftentimes a question that arises is how we show our care for our spouses – how we actually communicate how our spouses or partners are to us. For some people, it can be verbally. For others, it can be actions – like actually helping out with doing the dishes or cleaning the house. For others, it can be physical. We all have different love languages that we use. The most important thing is to be clear about the love language that one partner has and that another partner has. For example, if one partner wants to show that they care, they have to do it in the language that the other understands. If that’s not possible, we have to communicate about that. Oftentimes, for example, one partner might call when the other is busy or at work in meetings and unable to answer the phone and if their partner can’t pick up the phone, their feelings get hurt. In these situations, it’s important for there to be healthy and open communication and for the partner to say “this doesn’t mean that I don’t love you, that I don’t care about you – it simply means that at the moment I’m occupied and unable to get to my phone but as soon as I’m able to, I will.”
